Cuddling the past
The little boy and
the mystery inside old man’s cardboard box.
The little boy jumps
from mud pool to mud pool. The earth, washed after the rain makes the boy bubble
with joy. His face radiates happiness.
He looks down the
road. An old man is appearing slowly from the dip. First, his head appears and
then a massive square shaped object. The little boy is fascinated. He keeps his
eyes on the old man. As the man struggles closer, he can see the man is
awkwardly carrying a cardboard box. The box is heavy and the man suffers under
the load. His face muscles are knotted in tiredness, drawn into an expression of
agony.
The boy often sees
people going past with their boxes. Men, woman and even young children slowly
traveling and clutching their boxes, as if though it needs protection from
friend and foe. The people just sleep walk, one foot in front of the
other.
The boy constantly
speaks to them, but they never answer. Some just mumble and grumble and it
sounds like must continue on this road," Others just grunt, as they struggle to
look over the edge of the box trying to keep an eye on the uneven road.
"Dear sir you carry
a heavy load, who's stuff is it?" The boy asks when the man reaches
him.
"This is my stuff"
the man replied.
What is in the box,
the boy asked?
The man thinks for a
while and said....
"I have no
clue."
His voice strains
against the weight.
The boy is delighted
that the man actually spoke to him.
"And what wondrous
treasures do you have sir? Please won't you show me?"
The old man sniggers
"To tell you the truth young man, I don't know what is in my
box"
The boy answers,
You're kidding me"
He succeeds in
drawing a slight smile on the old man's face.
"I kid you not my
child; I do not know what's in the box other than that is my stuff. I need it
for my journey"
"And where dear sir,
are you going to? Asks the boy, looking puzzled.
"Mmmmm" says the old
man. "Actually to tell you the truth I also don't have the answer to that
riddle"
"Sir" the boy says
seriously.
"Won't you please
come and sit down with me and share my bread and sweet fountain water. Please
sir, take a load off. Let's open your cardboard box and let me see all the
treasures you collected and let me hear of all your fantastic
adventures"
The man sighs,
clutches his box and says
"Maybe some other
time young friend, but I need to push on"
"Why?" The boy asks,
"Why must you continue without any rest?"
The old man sighs,
"Because child, somewhere on the road is my happiness. I will find my happiness
when I get there."
"Where Sir? Where
will you find your happiness?"
"I don't know" the
man says, "all I know is that it is somewhere on this
journey"
"Do you need to
carry that box with you to the destiny of your happiness
sir?"
"Yes the man says,
it is my stuff?"
"Sir why don't you
just pause a second and look inside the box. Please sir, and I am embarrassed to
say that I am extremely curious about the contents of your box.
I have seen so many
people struggling past here. And never would anyone show me what they have. They
are always too busy going somewhere with their loads."
The man hesitates
and slows down.
"Why sir" asks the
boy "Is your box in such good condition"
The man replies
tiredly "I instinctively protect this box with all my might. I must confess, you
have me curious as well. Why don't we have a look?"
The little boy jumps
with joy.
Like children on
Christmas Eve, they eagerly open the box. They struggle with the folded flaps
and suddenly it pops open.
A stench that
reminds one of death rushes out of the box. The boy gasps. Even the old man
looks astounded.
"What is it?" the
little boy says, "I don't think I've ever seen anything so ugly and repulsive in
my life"
He stares at the
blobs of black ooze that shivers with an evil life of it's own inside the box. A
chill of disgust runs down his spine.
"I don't know" the
man says now looking disgusted himself.
He picks up one of
the objects, and says in surprise,
"This one here is
marked as regret. Regret of all the things I wanted to do, and never
did."
He carefully places
it back in the box. "Look!" the little boy says, "it just
grew a bit"
Another black entity
slivers around in the box. The man grasps it and lifts it out with
effort.
"Guilt" he says
looking pale.
"Guilt from what and
where" the little boy asks.
"The guilt from my
past" the old man says. "Here is the part where my mother told me I will not
amount to anything. And this part here is where I started accusing myself of
being worthless"
"Did you do a lot of
wrong doing in your life sir?" the boy asks.
"No the man says" I
cannot think that I ever deliberately harmed any living thing. It seems I
collected this guilt from what I believe.
"This here seems to
be the time I had a fight with my father.
And, this one is
when I failed my sums in grade two.
And this ugly one is
me, feeling sorry for myself."
Brrrr the boy
shivers. "I don't understand sir, why would one collect and burden oneself with
this kind of stuff?"
"We are raised to
think it is expected of us," says a strange warm voice.
The old man jumps in
fright. The boy smiles "Hello Grandmother" he says.
The stranger looks
up at the new arrival. She is old and wise but radiates youthful energy. The man
starts to close the box.
"Don't close your
box sir, let's look deeper into it." She says smilingly. Cautiously the man
opens the box again.
He says. "I cannot
stay much longer. Just look at all the pilgrims passing me on the road."Relax"
says the woman. "They will come through here again. They always do. They are
walking aimlessly in circles."
The man looks unsure
and says, "I sense I need to push on, let me grab my load and continue on my
journey"
"Sir I implore you
let us first look at the other stuff in your box. I think we can help you to
make your journey a lot easier and lighter if you just take the time to look at
the contents of your burden."
Reluctantly the man
puts his box down on the grass again.
"Do you know this
stuff grandmother?" the boy asks.
"Yes child, Grandma
knows this stuff. I call it the silly stuff of life. Maybe I should not call it
silly, for this silly stuff, is held in high esteem by most people. It has great
attraction power. It draws unto itself premature ageing and death. And if the
carrier does not take care, it will eventually rub off on the person looking
after it."
A dark sick green
almost black entity slivers in the box. "What's that the old man asks?"
"This" the woman
says "is called a habit. This one here is for smoking. It comes in two parts, a
small part called addiction and the large part called habit. Together they keep
the carrier in bondage for tobacco. This creature, however does not only spring
to life from chemicals, it is also created if anything is done or used
repeatedly, and the person no longer lives without this
repetition."
"And this one here is
hatred" says the old woman, "look how it sucks the life from this poor
man."
"This stinky one is
blame, all the blame this man gave to others for what is wrong in his life. Look
son, how it is making his eyes dull to all the opportunities. Here's one when a
friend told him, he is fat"
"And this one..." A
desperate cry from the man interrupts her words.
"Please, please!
Dear Lady, what should I do?" He sobs.
"Just leave the box
here", the woman replies, "And all of this dark weight will just evaporate the
moment you stop caring for it"
"I can't do that,"
the old man says. "I need it"
He grunts as he
picks up his box.
"Sir" the young boy
cries in desperation
"Why do you need
that weight on your shoulders?" Why Sir? Why? What value does it bring into your
life?" "Do you and the others who carry burdens, enjoy
it?"
The old man just
shook his head aimlessly and sadly replies, "I don't know, son". He disappears
over the hill.
The story can end
here. It is up to you.
The boy raises his
arms, and drinks in the sun. With a joyful glow, he closes his eyes. To his
delight, he hears the old man say,
"Son, what is it that
makes your life so carefree?"
The boy answers, "I
am always here Sir, here in the now. My happiness is right here within me.
Always!
Not somewhere in the
future and not a memory from the past. My purpose Sir, is just to feel good.
What value can self inflicted suffering bring to life?"
The man listens to
the boy in awe. His glazed eyes start to sparkle with
life.
"Sir, do you not
notice that I carry no load. I have no guilt or hang-ups of inferiority. If you
can feel it in your body sir, you can experience it.
Many others tried to
tell our people they are burden free. No one believed the prophets of God.
People tie
themselves down with all kinds of burdens.
Why?
Why do they carry
with them, stuff that brings no value?
Who sir told you,
you are not worthy?
Why sir, did you
believe them?
Please Sir, let it
go. Give no resistance and then you will glide through life, not even needing
positive thoughts. You will be free Sir. You will be able to say as I can, "I
am". Do not become sir, BE.
As the old man drops
the box, it gives a weak scream and evaporates in the sun.
The old man suddenly becomes younger. His posture straightens up. The boy smiles widely and he shouts, "Oh Daddy it's so good to see you again!"
"You will never change your life until you change something you do daily."- Mike Murdock -
(c) Theo
Pistorius
