Here is a profound little story from:
Price Pritchett.

"I’m sitting in a quiet room at the Millcroft Inn, a peaceful little place hidden back among the pine trees about an hour out of Toronto. It’s just past noon, late July, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away.

There is a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energies in a futile attempt to fly through the glass of the windowpane. The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy - try harder.

But it’s not working.

The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap. It is impossible for the fly to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.

This fly is doomed. It will die there on the windowsill.

Across the room, ten steps away, the door is open. Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free of this self-imposed trap. The breakthrough possibility is there. It would be so easy."

ooOoo
and so says Theo Pistorius

The lesson here is one of frantic action staring oneself blind at and fighting the problem with all your might. When the answer is often right there. If only you could step back from the problem and look at the big picture. Then will you see the answer in plain sight.

You have struggled enough. Calm down, relax and step back from your problems. calm down I said, don't get frantic. Now carefully look at the bigger picture. What do you see?

What I'm beginning to realise now is that the other side of the glass is not the whole story. The fly was not trying to break through the glass just to get outside. It needed to get out in order to live.

Positive thoughts can sometimes take you to the other side of the glass but they have not given you a whole life. Sometimes the self-defeating habits and familiar thoughts and behaviours returns and your positive thoughts do not transform your life. That's another challenge! All you lack is just the action steps.

The secret of getting through this door is not only spotting that it is there. You also need to have the desire to take the action and to go through it.